Are We Becoming the Men We Wanted to Marry?

17 Oct

Are We Becoming the Men We Wanted to Marry?

By  · On October 16, 2013

Gloria Steinem, a writer, lecturer, editor, and feminist activist, said in the 1970’s that “Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry”.  She also said “It’s impossible for women to have it all, if they have to do it all”.

We can take notes from Gloria, who led radical changes in the women’s movement among others.  While men were often thought of as superior, women like her (and me) believe that women should be thought of as equals instead of an inferior gender who is less likely and able to do it all.

Today more than ever, we have more freedoms.  We have the freedom of choice and expression.  We’re able to go to school to get a master’s degree and land a position of high power and status.

There are more stay at home dads today than ever before, with women as the main breadwinner in the household.  Four in ten households today with children under the age of 18 have a mother  who is the sole or primary breadwinner. This has quadrupled since 1960.

It has become widely accepted and expected for both married and single women to join the work force.  With all these triumphs in the face of doubt years ago, there is cause to celebrate.  As women, we should expect the most from ourselves.  We should live up to our potential and embrace the freedoms of today while reaching for our dreams and striving to be the most amazing women we can be.

So…are we becoming the men we wanted to marry?  Hell yes!  And it’s something to be proud of.  Be ambitious and strong.  Know you can have it all if you want it.  The days of thinking we’d be lonely and useless if we’re not a housewife are over.  Other things have changed as well.  Speaking of housewives, celebrity Vicki Gunvalson from the Real Housewives of Orange County has recently split from her husband, who is now after her for spousal support.  It just shows even further how much things have changed.

Protect yourself with a prenup, whether or not you’re successful before you say ‘I do’.  It will only protect you in the future if you do end up making more money than your husband.

The bottom line is that you are more than just a potential wife or mother.  You’re a woman.  Take charge of your life and your relationships.  We have the freedom to get married and get divorced.  Society no longer holds us hostage in terms of career and family.  Find a partner who is willing to share the household work.  You can have it all!  As long as you don’t have to do it all.


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