Does Your Belief in Destiny Affect Your Choices in Love?

15 Oct

Does Your Belief in Destiny Affect Your Choices in Love?

By  · On September 26, 2013

Destiny, serendipity, fate…do they exist? Do you think it’s something you firmly believe in or is it something you use for an excuse? While using these words in describing your relationship, ‘we were destined to meet’, ‘it was fate that brought us together’, you may just miss out on other opportunities because of your firm belief in this.

I believe in destiny, I believe in fate. I believe we meet people for a reason. But I also believe we are meant to learn from them, that we are meant to learn lessons through them and them through us. While being with someone may have been destined for that certain time in your life, was it destined to last forever? These are the questions you need to ask yourself. While fate may have brought the two of you together, compatibility, communication and trust keep you with each other. If you don’t have that, you can’t hold fate solely accountable. There are other aspects to a relationship besides the destined encounter that brought you together in the first place.

Don’t stay with someone because you’re holding onto this firm belief in destiny and fate. Ralph Waldo Emerson said “The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be”. Destiny is not completely determined for you, it is also a choice. We have free will. One thing I can’t stand is these people who sit around and claim that ‘whatever is meant to happen, will happen’. That may be true, but it’s only true if you try. It takes a certain amount of effort to control your future. Nothing is going to just fall into your lap. Except, maybe love.

So ask yourself if your belief in destiny is affecting your choices in love. Are you using that as a sign that he’s ‘the one’ even if in your heart you don’t believe he’s right for you? If you believe our fate is predetermined for us, do you believe that our future is out of our control? These are things you need to ask yourself. Don’t stay with the wrong guy because you’re holding onto this notion of fate and destiny. Remember, we have free will. And reality also interferes. Sometimes, things just don’t work out. And it’s not destiny’s fault. It’s human nature. Love andloss are a big part of life. Don’t be afraid you’ll never find love again, because just as destiny knocked on your door before, it will again.


3 Responses to “Does Your Belief in Destiny Affect Your Choices in Love?”

  1. andy1076 October 15, 2013 at 5:22 pm #

    I too believe that we learn from our past relationships, like the ones that have let us down. Eventually, leading us to the one that will not only understand but also accept us.

    • Daily Rants with the Bitch Next Door October 15, 2013 at 5:31 pm #

      I agree. This understanding can help us keep going in our darkest moments, that nothing was wasted, it was all an experience and a lesson that could lead to something greater.

      • andy1076 October 15, 2013 at 5:41 pm #

        Exactly ^.^

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