Archive | April, 2013

Whatever makes you happy

21 Apr


I recently read something in Cosmopolitan (yes, they actually have articles in there about things other than sex and shoes) by a woman named Sheryl Sandberg.  She is chief operating officer of Facebook and wrote a book titled ‘Lean In’.  The woman is smart, hands down. 

And inspiring.  The mini-book in Cosmopolitan was basically there to inspire, guide and motivate women to take leaps of faith in their careers.  She posed a question I found asking myself over and over again.

“What would I do if I weren’t afraid?”

Fear.  It drives a lot of us.  And it also disables a lot of us.  It stops us from doing things that we really want to do.  Just for the sake of failure being an option. We don’t want to put ourselves out there and risk failing.  But in order to succeed, we must take risks.  It’s the only way to get ahead.

Have a job you hate?  Lean in, she says, and make the move to change it.  Lean in to what you really want to do.  Don’t let the fact that you want to have a family stop you.  You can have both.  She says the trick is finding a partner who will split the household duties equally with you.  She says in order to make yourself happy you have to find a partner who will let you be you and let you do what you want to do in terms of your career.

But I don’t want to stop there.  I think the trick is finding a partner who not only will share duties with you and let you have a career, but the real trick is finding someone who will motivate and inspire you to be better.  Find whatever makes you happy, and just do it already.  The reward is worth the risk.  Nothing will change while you’re standing still.  


Procrastination VS. Constipation: What’s Worse?

4 Apr



Is this a coincidence that the two sort of rhyme?  Is it a strange juxtaposition?  Are they somehow related to one another or are they just similar? Personally, I’d put the two in the same category of “things that suck real bad”.  The worst part is that we probably all do the two at the same time.

Isn’t procrastination just mind constipation anyway?  I wish there was a pill for that; for creative block.  Or it’s just laziness.  Or lack of motivation.  Either way, scientists should really work on that.  The anti-procrastination pill.  I know a lot of people that’d be big fans.  It’d bring in millions.  There’d probably be some crazy side effect though.  Maybe it’d turn all your ideas into mush.  Or you’d grow an extra thumb.  All your time you’d typically spend procrastinating would then turn into time being spent trying to remember your original ideas because now all you can think about is unicorns and lollipops and things that you can do next. 

My father once said “My skill as a procrastinator has known no bounds.  I need to eliminate this aspect of myself and get f%#king moving.”  I recently forwarded that same text message to him, and he said he saved it in his outbox and it never fails to mock him. 

All jokes aside, I find constant procrastination more life threatening and painful than constipation.  I think it’s certainly more life shattering.  Maybe not in the moment, but in the end.  When faced with death, I’m afraid we’re going to be faced with missed opportunities and unrealized potential. 

Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase, why put off until tomorrow what you can put off until the day after tomorrow.  Procrastination is one of the most common diseases among the human race.  That and the sad fact that we always think we have more time. 

Time is never promised.  Time waits for no one.  A b%tch but true.  Also a true b*tch.  As my father said, let’s eliminate this aspect of ourselves and get f$%king moving.  It’s your life.  Do something about it.